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Spanking fetish makes men happier:
Bondage and discipline may actually make men happier, according to the first national survey of Australian fetish habits.The new sex study has revealed that two per cent of Australian men and 1.4 per cent of women admit to enjoying dominance, submission and sadomasochism-type sex in the past year.But researchers involved in the phone survey of 20,000 people say they expect many more Australians to be engaging in the practice but unwilling to label it BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination and submission)."There will definitely be more men and women who have sexual tastes in this direction but won't call it this," said Dr Juliet Richters, of the University of New South Wales."They might not like sex magazines but they just happen to like being tied up and spanked as part of foreplay."Ask them if they're into BDSM they'll say 'Yuck, no'."The survey results, to be presented at the World Association of Sexual Health congress in Sydney this week, give the first snapshot of Australians involved in bondage behaviour.These fetishes were most common among gay, lesbian and bisexual people and heterosexuals who are "bi-interested", said Dr Richters, the lead researcher.In women, BDSM was most popular among under 20-year-olds and those who had a partner they didn't live with. There were no age or relationship trends in men, she said.People who engaged in the habit were more likely to be sexually adventurous in other ways, like trying anal sex and phone sex, looking at internet pornography or using sex toys."These are people for whom sex is a hobby," Dr Richters said.They were no more likely to have suffered sexual difficulties, sexual abuse or coercion or anxiety than other Australians.In fact, says Dr Richters, men into BDSM scored significantly better on a scale of psychological wellbeing than other men."This seems to imply that these men are actually happier as a result of their behaviour, though we're not sure why," she said."It might just be that they're more in harmony with themselves because they're into something unusual and are comfortable with that."There's a lot to be said for accepting who you are."At the other end of the spectrum - least happy - were men who reported being attracted to men but had never acted on their desire and didn't regard themselves as gay.Researchers said the study helps break down the reigning stereotype that people into bondage and discipline were damaged as children and were therefore "dysfunctional"."We really found that BDSM is simply a sexual interest or subculture attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with 'normal' sex," Dr Richters said."They've just got a broader and more unusual sexual repertoire than most."
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Fifty Reasons to Spank Your Wife or Girlfriend
The post is aimed at the gentlemen out there. In particular, I’d like to direct my comments to the reluctant spankers. You know who you are. Your partner expressed an interest in being spanked, but she’s having a difficult time convincing you to do it. Your concerns – chivalry, lack of comprehension, potential impact on your relationship, or a desire to protect her – are quite understandable. Her request was unexpected and you probably weren’t prepared to answer the question at the moment she posed it.Let’s take a big step back and look again at the subject from a slightly different vantage point. I can offer you fifty reasons why you might want to take her across your lap and indulge her dreams.
1. The lovemaking afterward is often sensational
2. Romantic spanking opens lines of communications
3. There’s a community of spankos to provide support and advice
4. Adult spanking is the most common of all kinks
5. It can strengthen your relationship
6. Just picture those beautiful globes over your lap...
7. She's eager for this, really!
8. Compared to childbirth, the pain of a spanking is trivial
9. This is not punishment, think instead about spanking as foreplay
10. Spanking builds trust between partners
11. It's really OK to hit a woman, but only if she enjoys it
12. This isn't weird or unusual, it's just another kind of sex
13. You can be the strong, decisive man of her fantasies
14. What's not to like?
15. Do the initials B. J. hold any significance?
16. Many couples include erotic spanking in their lovemaking
17. Her dream can be your pleasure
18. It's something fun you can do together
19. You could make it a game
20. Spankings can relax her
21. If you don’t believe me, ask any other dedicated spanko
22. Role play spankings are great fun
23. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to repeat it
24. It isn’t about the pain, it’s about a shared experience
25. This opens an exciting new chapter in your relationship
26. Spankings promote greater physical and emotional intimacy
27. Your willingness to try demonstrates your love for her
28. It's wonderful to feel completely in love again
29. With a safeword, she can tell you before things go truly wrong
30. She's your lover - It's OK if your fingers wander southward
31. The process of experimentation allows a couple to grow together
32. It’s with you she wants to share this secret
33. Spankings don’t have to be serious – You can laugh and joke
34. Most women’s bottoms are well padded - real damage is unlikely
35. Consensual spanking is not abuse
36. Spanking is a huge turn-on for her – That can only be good for you!
37. She won’t think that you’re mean if you’re doing as she asked
38. You could get her to dress up for her spanking
39. With a few simple rules, adult spankings are safe and fun
40. Women are tougher than you think
41. You can be her hero!
42. You'll love how her skin grows warm and pink
43. Hugs and kisses
44. It’s wonderful to spoon after a spanking
45. Make her smile – tease her about future spankings
46. You can start small and simple
47. She'll adore you all the more for listening to her needs
48. Haven't you always wanted to threaten to "tan her hide?"
49. It’s fun to collect and test various spanking implements
50. If she didn't agree, she wouldn't have shown you this list!